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Pro-Life Perspective: “Finding Just the Right Words,” Part Two

by | Nov 11, 2011

NRLC President Carol Tobias

By Dave Andrusko

   Yesterday National Right to Life President and Pro-Life Perspective Host Carol Tobias began a three-part series in which she addresses “Finding the right words” when confronted by someone suffering from post-abortion syndrome. She begins today’s edition by candidly acknowledging this “can be difficult and uncomfortable for many pro-lifers, but it doesn’t have to be.”


Ask yourself, what might be the logical first step in dealing with someone who is emotionally fragile?  “First you listen!” Mrs. Tobias counsels. “Often, the thing the post-abortive woman needs the most is just to be heard in loving silence.”

If you know something about abortion—what it does to unborn babies—and post-abortion syndrome—the price abortion exacts of so many women—you’re likely tempted to share what you know.

“As important as all that information is, hold off!” Mrs. Tobias says. “At such a moment, a simple, ‘How difficult that must have been for you,’ can be a good way to start. Then just be quiet for a moment.”

There are a lot of similarly insightful comments to be heard For example our job at such an emotionally freighted time is not to try to “solve” all her problems, “but rather to create a safe place for her to begin her journey of healing,” Mrs. Tobias note. “You may be the very first person she has ever spoken to about that terrible event.  The more available you can make yourself emotionally, the more that woman will see the real compassion of the pro-life moment for both mother and child.”

After you listen to today’s five-minute episode, be sure to pass along the link through your social networks. And if you happened to have missed yesterday’s program, that is also available at

Tomorrow Mrs. Tobias will conclude her three-part look at “Finding the right words.”

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