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Abortion’s Tragic Legacy for men

by | Jul 18, 2013

By Dave Andrusko

SeriousmanYesterday NRL News Today ran a column by NRLC President Carol Tobias lamenting a boorish, exploitative, callous blog written by someone by the name of Ben Sherman. No need to rehearse the specifics of what Sherman wrote. He opposed Texas’s new pro-life law because it might get in the way of his runaway libido. (Sherman ran another post in response to criticism and, of course, he claims to have been deliberately mislead by “many right wingers.” Sure.)

But Mrs. Tobias made an important distinction—that Sherman was representative of only some men, the kind that rely on abortion to “cover up” their own lack of accountability.

That same point was made at great length in a recent post by Sarah Terzo. (“A father’s heartbreaking story…and Planned Parenthood’s response to men like him.”) We have re-run some of Ms. Torso’s excellent articles which have appeared first on

To be clear, it would be egregiously false—slurs, actually—to imply that most men are like Sherman. But it would also not be true to suggest the opposite: that all men fight to save from abortion the children they have fathered.

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The truth is somewhere in the middle. Terzo’s intent is to remind us not to

“neglect the many men who desperately want their children. These men may beg and plead, may fight for their children’s lives – but in the end, they have no say.”

She reprints a long post on Facebook from a heartbroken man whose girlfriend aborted the twins he so fervently tried to save. (See

The man she identified by the initials RDF tells a story that just breaks your heart. By his account—and we have, of course, only what he has shared on Facebook—he did just about everything a man could do. Every reassurance, every promise to be an active father who shared responsibilities so she could go to school, every alternative to abortion. There was even what seemed like a sign from God to spare these babies’ lives.

She had the abortion, RDF wrote, and regretted it instantly. The “emotional pain was unbearable” and his girlfriend fell apart emotionally.

Terzo offers a powerful conclusion which I will quote in its entirety.

”Planned Parenthood, as well as other pro-abortion groups, have always fought very hard to prevent the father of the baby from having any influence, and they have been very successful. Women are not even required to tell the father. In fact, a law that would have required the husbands of married women to be told about their wives’ pending abortions was found unconstitutional by the Supreme Court in Planned Parenthood v. Casey. A father does not have the right even to know about his partner’s abortion, much less stop it.

“Louise Taylor, who was the vice president of medical affairs at Planned Parenthood, summed up PP’s attitude towards the fathers of aborted babies: ‘But it doesn’t matter how much men scream and holler that they are being left out [of the abortion decision] There are some things that they are never going to be able to experience fully. I say, tough luck.’”

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