NRL News

Live and Let Live

by | May 11, 2016

Editor’s note. This column by NRLC President Carol Tobias appears in the new digital edition of National Right to Life News which went online Tuesday.  As can the entirety of the 45-page May issue, Mrs. Tobias’s column can be read at Please be sure to pass the link along using your social media outlets, as well as individual stories.

National Right to Life President Carol Tobias

National Right to Life President Carol Tobias

“Live and Let Live” is usually interpreted to mean: You do your thing and I’ll do mine; I won’t interfere with anything you want to do; we’ll all get along and live happily ever after.

That attitude, in today’s society, not only has lead to the death of over 58 million human beings through abortion, it is also setting us up for a huge step down the slippery slope to euthanasia and assisted suicide.

We need to emphasize those last two words and understand their true meaning. When the lives of innocent human beings are threatened we insist, “Live and Let Live.”

Trying to bring some sanity back to our culture, thirteen states have passed laws to protect unborn children who have developed enough to feel pain and four states (with a fifth in the wings) to protect babies from the gruesome dismemberment abortion. While current Supreme Court decisions prevent the Right-to-Life community from doing more to protect children, these measures do allow some babies to survive. To the abortion industry, we say, “Live and Let Live.” Unborn children are not “spare parts” and are not be used for research.

That abortion industry has shown that it doesn’t care about the women involved in abortion. They oppose laws that would require women be given specific information about abortion and alternatives that are available. They oppose giving her the opportunity to view her child via ultrasound. Abortionists prescribe chemical abortions to women over the internet, leaving the women on their own should complications arise from the abortion.

To those in the abortion industry, we say “Stop taking advantage of women in order to make a profit. Stop killing unborn children because they somehow got in the way.” Live and Let Live.

We aren’t surprised to find that when a society devalues life at the beginning of the life cycle, it will also devalue life at the end of the cycle–or somewhere along the way–if that life is “imperfect” in the eyes of some.

Food and water, or nutrition and hydration– now defined as “medical treatment”– are routinely withheld from the elderly in hospitals and nursing homes. It is also withheld from those who are disabled, but not dying, or not dying fast enough, in the eyes of some. There is an on-going push to starve to death those patients with Alzheimer’s, even those who would ask for food.

Don’t starve our sick and/or elderly brothers and sisters. Live and Let Live.

Studies show that somewhere between 60% and 90% of unborn babies diagnosed with Down’s syndrome are aborted. Parents whose child is born with a genetic disorder may have to fight with doctors and hospitals to get treatment for their child. One mother found out, after her son died, that a DNR order had been placed on her son’s chart without her knowledge.

In an opinion column in the Washington Post last month, Timothy Shriver, son of Eunice Kennedy Shriver and chairman of the U.S. Special Olympics, detailed the case in California of Lily Parra. At the time Lily was four months old and needed a heart transplant. The doctors took her off the transplant recipient list because she has a developmental disability, Shriver charged. They want to give the heart to someone “normal.”

We’ve seen the battle for assisted suicide heat up as more state legislatures are asked to legalize the practice. The argument starts out as “allowing” terminally ill” patients the right to decide when and how they die. But we know that is just a foot in the door. The Netherlands and Belgium were the first to allow assisted suicide but the numbers are growing of people being put to death without their consent.

When we start to decide who should live and who should die, when we try to determine which lives have value, it is not the young and healthy who will be the first to go. The elderly and the disabled will be “encouraged” to end their lives. Disability groups such Not Dead Yet are among the most vociferous opponents of assisted-suicide. They know the future for persons with disabilities, should such laws become widespread.

Life can be challenging enough. When someone has added challenges, our response must be one of love and acceptance and assistance. Human life—from unborn baby to senior citizen—must be protected. Live and let live.

Grassroots pro-lifers are constant and consistent–educating, working on legislation, working with pregnancy centers, talking to friends and neighbors, working with young people. That faithfulness is making a difference. Rather than Live and Let Live— in the sense that I won’t object to anything you do– we are seeing Live and Let Live, as in don’t kill these innocent little ones.

Polling consistently shows that younger people, usually late teens to early thirties, are the age group most in favor of making abortion illegal. Younger people are more pro-life than their parents; they are the bright light for the future of the pro-life movement.

Young people may accept the traditional “live and let live” philosophy when it comes to other issues, but they support “Live and Let Live” when it comes to unborn babies. I believe that as we convince others to see unborn children as fellow human beings, deserving of respect and protection as members of the human family, that attitude of inclusion will extend to all human beings, including those with disabilities and the elderly.

We can and will live in a culture that promotes “Live and Let Live.”

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