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Actress talks about “one of those little scars”–the abortion she kept secret from her then boyfriend, now husband

by | Sep 13, 2016

By Dave Andrusko

Naya Rivera

Naya Rivera

Back when actress Naya Rivera was first publicizing her then-forthcoming memoir, “Sorry Not Sorry,” we posted about her “exclusive” comments to People magazine, knowing there had to be more to the story.

The book comes out today and, yes, there is more.

If you remember, Rivera told us that in late 2010 she had just broken up with the then-boyfriend, now husband Ryan Dorsey, when she found out she was pregnant. She aborted without telling Dorsey, the baby’s father.

Rivera says she did not reveal the pregnancy to Dorsey, whom she wed in 2014 and is now the father of her 11-month-old son. Instead, she made the call to put her career first and terminated the pregnancy during her one day off from filming an episode of Glee.

“It was very scary to open up about everything,” says Rivera. “It’s not something a lot of people talk about, but I think they should. I know some people might read it and say, ‘What the Hell?’ But I hope someone out there gets something out of it.”

In the two interviews I read today, Rivera was not so casual–or flippant–about her abortion.

In an interview with Entertainment Tonight she was asked by Nischelle Turner, “Do you still think about it today?

Absolutely. Absolutely. I think that’s true for any woman, whether it be making a decision or a miscarriage. I think it’s always on your mind, and it’s one of those little scars in life. …

When I was writing the book, it was really important for to include that, because this is … a part of my story and a part of who I am. And like I said, the statistic is crazy — there are so many women out there that are going through this and nobody gets to talk about it.”

Rivera never (at least in the interviews) tells us exactly why she finally told Dorsey about the abortion. According to ET

“That was really nerve-racking,” Rivera recalls. “I didn’t know how he would react, obviously. It had been so many years. He ended up saying, you know, one of the best things that any man in that situation could have ever said. And I think that it’s just a true testament to him and us, and I’m grateful for where we are now.”

What exactly did Dorsey say? For that you need to go to the book (which I don’t have) or to a new interview with People magazine:

“He said, ‘In the short time that we dated, I wish that I could have done something to make you feel like you could have trusted me with that information because I would have loved to have been there with you.”

You can read that in at least two ways. Probably Dorsey meant he could have affirmed her decision to abort and/or accompanied her to the abortion facility.

A less likely but more encouraging interpretation is that being “there with you” mean being “there for you [and the baby].”

Alas, one of the people “she hopes gets something out of her memoir,” according to People’s Stephanie Petit, “is her son.”

“I hope Josey will read it one day,” she says of the book. “I hope it gives him a better perspective on the issues women face.”

Truly? That she wants her son to know that she aborted the “issues” — Josey’s older sibling?

That I will never understand.

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