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“Foster parenting and adoption are not easy roads traveled, but I can say with 100% certainty that it is worth it”

by | Aug 12, 2021

By Heidi Gariti

Editor’s note. This encouraging and uplifting story from the newsletter of the National Association of Pro-Life Nurses was posted a year ago today. We repost it with pleasure.

Three years ago, my husband Chris and I had a full house, full schedule, and what we thought was a complete family with our three children Addy – 9, Jake – 11 and Zack – 13 years old at the time. Then, Jake met a new friend. Her name was Maddie. Maddie was 13, and I could see the pain in her life and the innocence in her heart. 

She and I grew close quickly, and I started praying for God to help me help her. The Lord made it clear to me that she was to be with us. I had never heard God speak so clearly in my life than when I met Maddie. I didn’t know how it would happen or what it would look like, but I knew she was to be with us. 

In a matter of weeks Maddie told me CYF [Children, Youth and Families] had visited her home. I told the office we would like to be a resource family so that if they removed Maddie from her home, we would be a possibility for her placement. It happened, and she was placed in our home! 

Foster parenting and adoption are not easy roads travelled, but I can say with 100% certainty that it is worth it. We navigated through the system, built an additional bedroom in our home, and watched as Maddie blossomed into an honor student with gifts in theater and music, an amazing public speaker, and a daughter of Christ who held tight onto her faith. 

After Maddie moved in with us, the idea of her leaving us to return to her biological family or another family member would take my breath away. I loved her like my own…she was my own. After 22 months, the courts terminated the parental rights of her biological parents, and adoption was finally within reach. 

Then, COVID-19 struck. I was persistent with my emails and phone calls to insist on updates and plans to get the courts up and running. Advocating for children is very important. Within a month, we were the first virtual adoption in our county. My most used line when reaching out to government officials, “There is always a way.” I was speaking about coming up with a way to have the adoption hearing despite a pandemic. I am happy to say, they figured it out, and at 10 AM on July 10, 2020 we adopted Maddie virtually from our living room. 

The Lord put on my heart that Maddie was to be with us, and with us is where she now is! We can’t imagine our life without her. You might think your house is full, your schedule is jammed, and your ability to foster or adopt is limited, but trust me, there is always room in your heart to learn and love.

Categories: Adoption