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Her Husband Demanded An Abortion, Then The Abortionist Drugged Her

by | Feb 15, 2024

A woman tells her story of forced abortion.

By Sarah Terzo

In a collection of women’s abortion stories, one post-abortive woman wrote about how she was pressured into an abortion by her husband and abortion workers. 

A Husband’s Demands

The woman’s husband, Ralph, insisted she get an abortion. Worn down by his nagging, she decided to go to the abortion facility and back out at the last minute. Then she could say she tried to get an abortion, which might appease her husband.

She says, “Looking back, I realize I was afraid of my husband.” 

Pressured and Lied to by the Abortion Worker

A smiling abortion worker met her at the abortion facility, and she told the woman immediately that she didn’t want an abortion. The post-abortive woman recounted the conversation between her and the abortion worker: 

We were led into a counseling room by a woman with a pleasant smile. After we sat down, I told her, “Deep inside my heart, I know there is no justification for an abortion.”

Ralph glared at me. He said, “She thinks she is carrying a baby and not just a blob of cells.”

The counselor assured me that my baby was “just a pinhead.” Both she and my husband argued with me.

Of course, a preborn baby, even in the first trimester, is far from “just a pinhead.” According to the Endowment for Human Development, a preborn baby’s heart starts beating at just 3 weeks and one day after conception.

At 6 weeks, the baby’s brain is already divided into 2 hemispheres. Between 6 and 7 weeks, the embryo responds to touch. At a little over 7 weeks from conception (the 9th week of pregnancy) the baby has fingers and toes.

So when the abortion worker said that the baby was “just a pinhead,” she was lying.

Refusing to Take No for an Answer

The post-abortive woman goes on, telling her story:

[The abortion worker] said, “You can do this. You don’t have to want it or like it. It’s best to make this sacrifice for the well-being of your two boys.” 

My husband begged me, “Please do it!”…

“Wouldn’t you remove a tumor?” As she shoved the papers at me to sign, she told me, “You can stop the abortion at any time.” 

Under pressure, the pregnant woman signed the papers, still intending to change her mind: 

When it was time to go into the operating room, I crouched down outside the door and whimpered, “I can’t do this.” Two smiling women, one on each side of me, lifted me up and pushed me into the room. The doctor was upset with me because I was crying. Many times, I told him, “I don’t want to. I don’t want to!” 

They gave her anesthesia, knocked her out, and did the abortion against her will. 

This woman made it very clear to the abortion workers and the abortionist that she didn’t want the abortion. They didn’t care. Instead of respecting her choice, they gave her drugs to incapacitate her and then committed the abortion on her against her will.

Their actions make a mockery of the pro-abortion claim that abortion providers are selfless heroes who just want to help women. These “pro-choice” abortion providers didn’t respect this woman’s choice. 

Many former abortion workers have said that the abortion industry is motivated by greed. Perhaps the abortionist and clinic workers didn’t want to lose the money they would get from the abortion.

Regardless of the reason, they violated the woman’s bodily autonomy by performing surgery on her against her will. This should offend both pro-choicers and pro-lifers.

Grief Delegitimized

That night, the woman cried bitterly, only to have her husband yell at her: 

That night when my crying kept Ralph awake, he yelled at me, “What’s wrong with you? We got rid of the problem!”

The next morning, after a night without sleep, I urged Ralph to look on the Internet for what happened to women after an abortion.

He searched WebMD and found only one article. He showed it to me and pointed to one sentence: “Most women do not regret abortion.” He grinned knowingly and said, “You see? You’re crazy, you’re creating this problem. You’ll be okay.”

I cried. 

The pro-abortion movement constantly promotes the narrative that women don’t regret abortion and that abortion causes no emotional harm. In this case, these claims were seized upon as ammunition and used against a grieving, post-abortive woman by her verbally abusive husband.

Post-abortive people who suffer after an abortion have their feelings delegitimized in our culture. This makes them feel isolated and alone. As with the woman above, they are made to feel that there’s something wrong with them, that they are “crazy.”                   

This is a great disservice to hurting people.

Editor’s note. This appears on Sarah’s substack.

Categories: Abortion